ABOUT CLÉO DUBOIS
My journey into SM play started in the 80's. There I found the link that
connects my sexuality
and
my spirituality. I learned that negotiated sadomasochism is a valid path
to self-discovery, intimacy and healing. I became a Domina
and ritualist. Leather Conferences and community groups such as Outcasts,
Janus, Exiles, and QSM first gave me a voice as an ethical and informed kink
presenter.
I present at national conferences such as Thunder
In The Mountains, Kinky
Kollege, the Floating World, IMsL and local venues such as the Society
of Janus, SM Odyssey and Good
Vibrations. I also offer with my life partner,
Fakir, "Spirit +
Flesh" body-based shamanic community all day workshop/rituals.
Most
recently, I have been nominated for Woman of the Year by the Leather Journal
for the Pantheon of Leather XIX in 2009. In June 2008 it was my great
honor and wonderful fun to be chosen Leather Marshall for the LGBT San Francisco
Parade.
Taking a look back I founded the Academy of SM Arts in 1995, then
focusing my work towards couples. I offer consultations in my office as well
as private
guided play in the dungeon. Desiring to reach more individuals and couples
attracted to BDSM, I created and produced my first docu-play video "The
Pain Game" in 2000. The response was magical. My film screened in San
Francisco, Paris, New York, Amsterdam and Minneapolis as well as many alternative
film festivals. I received an award from the Society
of Scientific Study of Sexuality for true depiction of loving and conscious SM. Folks asked me
to make another film focusing on bondage. I released "Tie
Me Up" in
2002.
Many
informative books on the Leather Scene including one written by my long time
friend Sybil Holiday , "Consensual Sadomasochism " came out
to help kinksters find their ways. However, no comprehensive course spanning
the continuum from negotiation and communication skills to play techniques
and scene dynamics was offered in the community. I invited Sybil to collaborate
with me in creating such a course in SM Arts and Sensual Dominance. We had
a wonderful three years teaching together.
My Academy of SM Arts is now in its ninth year of offering Erotic
Dominance Intensive Weekends for Women and its sixth year of offering Dominance
Intensive Weekends for Men. Based on the awareness and refinement of erotic energy
exchange, these intimate workshops focus on personal empowerment and play
skills, while maintaining the overall theme of dominance and relationship.
I am assisted in teaching by premier Domina S/M activist educator, Eve
Minax,
a talented and versatile D/s trainer, and Selina Raven, a rising star in
the San Francisco BDSM community. Community SM educators such as JD of Two
Knotty Boys are also invited. All share my enthusiasm for BDSM as a path
to making your play sexier and more connected.
Of course, I continue to coach bondage and SM play to couples and individuals
through private consultations and guided play training in the privacy of
my dungeon.. I have been invited to speak at San Francisco State University,
the University of California, The Learning Annex and the Department of Psychiatry
at Kaiser Permanente in San Francisco. I am honored to be a Distinguished
Lecturer at the Institute of the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San
Francisco and an affiliate teacher at One
Taste SF.
As a columnist, I have been published in Different
Loving (1993) by Gloria
Brame, Bitch
Goddess by Pat Califia (1997), Sex
Tips and Tales from Women Who Dare by Jo-Anne Baker (2001), in On
Our Backs and on-line publications
such Sensous Sadie whose website features guest writers on BDSM and spirituality
topics. Most recently I am featured in Reclaiming
Eros by Blackburn-Wade,
2007.
I just completed a 10 part series for Gloria Brame’s 20-UP
SM Project.
I
share what I have learned through nearly 30 years of shameless, consensual
and fulfilling erotic play and rich long term relationships.
Here is my 30 mn video interview by Minax for CarnalNation about my work
and ethics:
I believe in the magic of SM and in keeping a sense of humor about it all!